My only connection to the lesbian community was cut of from me as Im only attracted to cis woman sexualy. However I was told that I was being transphobic and had internalised homophobia because I refused the idea of having sex with someone who do not have gentitals which I'm attracted to. I've always held the belief that I'll treat trans people as what ever gender they want as long as I don't have to sexualy engage with them then it's fine .  a discord group I was in banned me and called me a terf  and transphobic... 

They where my only connection to the LGBTQ community I'm to afraid to speak about this again as I don't want to be kicked out of another one and be alone with not even the group of people who I'm meant to be apart of accepting me. Im going to be at an age I can online date soon I'm worried that my attraction will be deemed wrong and I won't find someone to have a reletionship with unless I can prove myself as a lesbian and have sex with a trans woman. I don't want to be coerced but I want a community and friend to be apart of. I'm a lesbian but am I really because I'm not into trans woman?