A few years ago, I matched with a trans identified male on a popular dating app. I now know that his photos were heavily edited and taken from flattering angles and in the best lighting. After texting back and forth for a couple of weeks, we made plans to meet up. It was immediately clear he was trans. I didn't want to be rude, so I sat through the date then made an excuse to leave after an hour or so. When he texted me later to ask if I wanted to see him again, I said no and was stupid enough to explain why.  I was also stupid enough that I had sent him a few risqué pics and allowed him to follow me on social media before I had met him in person. To make a long story short, he spammed my followers with my pics and screenshots of our texts. A lot of these followers were family members and IRL friends. One was even a colleague.