1) Various negative physical experiences with gay/bi men in UK gay bars/clubs...mainly the usual theme of them thinking it's 'OK' to touch my breasts because they're gay??? This was by men I was barely acquainted with so there could be no assumed consent/familiarity involving 'horseplay'. They knew I was a lesbian so duh...I'm not keen on having men touching my intimate areas no matter what the scenario. 2) The second variety of negative physical gay/bi male behaviour is that of clearly deliberately barging into me whilst talking to a bi male friend I attended a UK gay bar with. No idea if this was linked to me being a lesbian but certainly seemed happy to physically passive-aggressively assault a female in what was supposed to be a mixed sex lesbian and gay venue. 3) Being in the company of gay/bi males on a UK NUS LGB event and having to hear their ridiculous and offensive references to female genitalia with terms such as 'hairy haddock pie' - this was in front of me and other lesbian women. These were supposed 'LGB/LGBT' officers and associated personnel back in the early 2000's. 4) Online dating apps/sites - given up using them due to 'lesbian' profiles being deluged with delusional, porn-addled trans-identifying men who make a point of listing various disgusting kinks/paraphilias along with their equally hideous and ridiculous photos. Being 'matched' with these deranged individuals only happens because they have deliberately chosen to target lesbian online spaces and there is no way of filtering them out. Even stating 'no MTF' in your bio makes no difference! This is of course, assuming these profiles are genuine. I must make that caveat as ultimately, until you video call/meet someone you never really know but I certainly was never tempted! 5) Not 'violence' obviously but having a male colleague c20 years my senior when I was about age 29 ask, at my desk in an open-plan UK office how I know I don't like men and regale some story (which now realise was probably at least part fantasy) about some lesbian in her 20's who was working for him and how he asked her on her splitting with her then gf if she knew she wanted 'that' if she hadn't tried the hetero life (my paraphrasing). Needless to say I reflected the same argument back on him and suggested he might want to try men to make sure he was happy being hetero! He was of course married with kids...