I've been followed home from work twice when I used to work at the pub by men trying to "compete" with me as well as "win" because "I'm playing hard to get due to KY sexuality. I had a coworker who worked on the property sit outside my house high on meth fiddle with himself until a female coworker came in and warned me that he had spoken to some guys at the pub about "fucking me straight" he disappeared only to reappear multiple times throughout the night. I didn't feel safe so I went to a friend's room where he followed me and sat outside the window playing with himself talking about me and her having sex and how he will show us a good time. This continued until 5am in the morning. We contacted the police and my house was inspected, it had been broken in to with notes written all throughout the house with his number and detailing the things he was going to do to me/us. My property was stolen and locks broken. I didn't feel safe for years. He was not jailed (he had previously sexually assaulted a 14 year old girl 5 years earlier with no charge) he was bared from the property for 3 months. (Small Town so nothing was done) I joined an LGBTQIA group only to be bullied and harassed by these NB women's male partners. They spread lies about me sleeping with men despite being a lesbian because "I don't look like a lesbian" (meaning I present far to feminine :/ ) I couldn't so much as have a conversation without it meaning I was trying to hit on them. This was meant to be a safe space for me (spoiler, no LGBTQ space has ever made me feel welcomed or understood. It's full of adult children victimizing themselves or being quirky.) The amount of times I tell men I'm not interested in sleeping with because I'm a lesbian for them to insist I'm confused, have not met the right man, have trauma or hate men is to many to count. I was disowned by half my family when I came out and have been terribly alone and fighting for myself since 16(2 homeless shelters and no stable home for years) I was groomed by a 31 year old man. He was my friends brother and when I had no family (after I came out) he felt like a big brother. I was 16-17 and crashed on his couch where we became close and he insisted I buy drugs (marijuana and other things) if I wanted a place to stay. He was the closest thing to family so when he moved away I moved with him because I thought I could trust him since I had no one and he was good to me(he was a diagnosed sociopath) once I was alone with him he became incredibly possessive, controlling, manipulative and gaslit constantly. I was the only one working and was expected to do all the housework as well as sit with him for hours watching him play games. I shortly ended up having a breakdown and being homeless once again (I developed PTSD from the abuse) he told me how he had rape fantasies and later confessed his feelings for me weeks later. I didn't feel safe at all. I've been struggling to be apart of the lgbt so in a last stitch effort to be apart of "my" community I befriended some NB people and trans women. (I was gaslit into believing I was the issue because I don't support gender ideology and wanted to change my mind and grow as a person) One of these trans women took an interest in me after me and my partner broke up, I made it clear I wasn't interested nor ready for a relationship. This person continued to flirt with me and reassure me we were just friends only to tell everyone in our lives we were dating and I was his GF. He would constantly send me pictures of his genitalia guilting me into validating his "womanhood" (daily) and insisted on telling me that a penis isn't male because genitalia doesn't have a gender. No matter how much I reassured him it was never enough. I expressed disinterest in male genitalia multiple times and was met with homophobia about how all lesbians are transphobes and constantly invalidate him and the only decent people are bisexuals. He was a fully adult man, who was actually bisexual who had not gone through hormone therapy, nor bothered to present feminine etc etc but insisted on identifying as a female lesbian. I hate how this community doesn't care about facts and whatever makes you comfortable regardless of if it's true or not. I later found out this man had groomed a minor and later ended up marrying this minor when she became of age. They are no longer together. I was molested by my 15 year old cousin when I was 7-8 and nothing was ever done about it. He later made a remark to me when I was 20 saying "it's a shame you ended up a lesbian, such a waste" Ive always liked girls regardless of my trauma. I've had 3 men, 2 being my friends ask if they found a girl could I please have a three-way with them. We do not speak anymore. Men treat me like a challenge to break me and try sleep with me, when I don't show interest even politely I get degraded. I no longer support the LGBTQIA community due the disrespect to actual victims and gay people. The community is dead to me especially after all I've been through just to be gaslit again and again by entitled people with no real world experience.